Never Alone

MEET AMY BOUCHER PYE

A Note from Carol: I love giving some of my friends a voice on the Joy for the Journey blog. I can’t wait to share this post from Amy Boucher Pye. She’s a writer, speaker, retreat leader, and spiritual director. The author of six books, including 7 Ways to Pray, she makes her home in a lovely but drafty Victorian vicarage in North London with her family. Find her at amyboucherpye.com, where you can sign up to her monthly newsletter, including a prayer exercise, and on social media.

My friend Margaret* has been on watch for weeks, her mother nearing the end of her life. Margaret is one of my beloved FFF—fantabulous friends forever—a group of childhood friends whose connections became as strong as iron after one of us died at nineteen in a car crash. Margaret waits and watches and gathers with her family members around her mother, and we FFF wait with her. At times like these, being an ocean away from these beloved ones, I feel the limitations of geography. I can’t just pop over with a meal or some flowers. But I take comfort in, and hope from, my friendship with Jesus, the One who is not with me in bodily form but who loves me, encourages me, affirms me. I know that just as Jesus fills the gaps for me, so will he be present with Margaret and her loved ones. And he can bring Margaret to mind regularly so that I can lift her before God in prayer. 

I learned so much about friendship with Jesus when I wrote Transforming Love, an exploration of the relationships of Mary, Martha, and Lazarus with Jesus. These beloved siblings are those Jesus visited when he wanted rest and refreshment—he’d journey to their home in Bethany, two miles from Jerusalem, and receive their hospitality. They are named as those Jesus loves (John 11:5); indeed, the sisters are probably the most important women to Jesus outside of his mother. And yet he allows their brother to die when for four days he doesn’t travel to Bethany after they send word that Lazarus was sick. Jesus knows that his beloved friends faced a tsunami of grief as their brother died, but he doesn’t alleviate their pain just then.

We, with a fuller picture, can understand that Jesus allowed a bigger purpose to flow from Lazarus’s death, namely bringing Lazarus back from the dead and therefore confirming that he is the Messiah, the anointed One who will bring salvation to many. But at the time Mary and Martha didn't know that. They only feel his absence. 

Both women utter the same words, but at different moments, to Jesus when he arrives in Bethany: “Lord, if you’d been here, my brother would not have died” (John 11:21, 32). Jesus meets each woman in her place of need. With Martha he holds a conversation where she declares that he’s the Messiah (in doing so she’s only one of three in the New Testament to acknowledge this before his death and resurrection). With Mary he grieves with her—that shortest verse in the Bible, “Jesus wept” (John 11:35)—and then takes action, raising Lazarus from the dead. 

Jesus pours out his love on both women, even as he does for us today. But we might wonder how he can be such a close friend to us—after all, we can’t meet him for coffee. How can Jesus be our friend like he was for Martha and Mary?

Although we don’t have Jesus in physical form—yet!—we have the amazing gift of the Holy Spirit. Jesus promised his friends that after he died, he would send the Spirit to be with them: “I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever—the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you” (John 14:16–18). 

This means that we have the Holy Spirit living with and in us. Amazingly, we’re never alone; God through Jesus and the Holy Spirit takes up residence with us in our very beings. God through his Spirit touches us when we’re lonely; he brings to mind a friend in need whom we can text or go see; he gives us the sweet sleep that restores our mood and our body. Thus Jesus can change us from within, helping us to love others with sacrificial love; to trust him for our well-being; to live unshackled by fear.

Friendship with Jesus changes us because of our moment by moment relationship with him. Like Martha we can enjoy a conversation with him; like Mary we can express our deep sorrow and disbelief that he seemingly wasn’t there for us in our time of need. Jesus will envelop us in his love each and every day, thereby changing us to be more like him as we grow in our love for him. He’s our best friend ever.

Carol McLeod
Carol says, “I am just a girl who is head over heels in love with Jesus ... passionately addicted to His Word ... and find all of the joy that I need in time spent in His presence." Carol is a Christmas-aholic, loves ACC basketball and the beach! Like all menopausal women, she is overly fond of chocolate and enjoys a good read. She doesn't like cleaning her house and is an expert in carry-out dinners. She hates to shop … loves to jog … and somehow finds time in her busy life to hang out with small children. She is the kind of woman that you could laugh with over lunch, cry with over disappointment and shout with over a victory! But … if you need her official bio … read on! Carol is an author and popular speaker at women's conferences and retreats, where she teaches the Word of God with great joy and enthusiasm. She also hosts highly successful Just Joy! outreaches. Carol encourages and empowers women with passionate and practical biblical messages mixed with her own special brand of hope and humor. Carol has written three books, "Holy Estrogen!", "The Rooms of a Woman's Heart" and "Defiant Joy!" which was released by a subsidiary of Thomas Nelson. Her teaching DVD, "The Rooms of a Woman's Heart", won the Telly Award, a prestigious industry award, for excellence in religious programming. Carol has also been featured on YouVersion (the smart phone Bible app) with several devotionals, including: "For the Journey Set Before Him", "Jolt of Joy", and "Joy to YOUR world", " Carol has a daily radio program, "Defiant Joy! Radio" which is available in several national markets including Youngsville PA, Warren PA, Buffalo NY, Roanoke VA, Norfolk VA, and Nashville TN.  A 1977 graduate of Oral Roberts University with a degree in Music and English, Carol has the distinction of being both the first Women's Chaplain and the first woman to speak at the university's Vespers.  Carol currently serves on the ORU Alumni Board as chaplain.  She is married to her college sweetheart and love of her life, Craig, who serves as senior pastor of Life Church, a church near Buffalo, NY.  Craig and Carol have been happily married for nearly 37 years and are the parents of five children and three delightful daughters-in-law. Craig and Carol are thrilled with the joy of being grandparents to five precious grandchildren! Carol has written three books, "Holy Estrogen!", "The Rooms of a Woman's Heart" and "Defiant Joy!" which was released by a subsidiary of Thomas Nelson. Her teaching DVD, "The Rooms of a Woman's Heart", won the Telly Award, a prestigious industry award, for excellence in religious programming. Carol has also been featured on YouVersion (the smart phone Bible app) with several devotionals, including: "For the Journey Set Before Him", "Jolt of Joy", and "Joy to YOUR world", " Carol has a daily radio program, "Defiant Joy! Radio" which is available in several national markets including Youngsville PA, Warren PA, Buffalo NY, Roanoke VA, Norfolk VA, and Nashville TN.  A 1977 graduate of Oral Roberts University with a degree in Music and English, Carol has the distinction of being both the first Women's Chaplain and the first woman to speak at the university's Vespers.  Carol currently serves on the ORU Alumni Board as chaplain.  She is married to her college sweetheart and love of her life, Craig, who serves as senior pastor of Life Church, a church near Buffalo, NY.  Craig and Carol have been happily married for nearly 37 years and are the parents of five children and three delightful daughters-in-law. Craig and Carol are thrilled with the joy of being grandparents to five precious grandchildren!
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